LOVE-A DECISION✓

Hi guys! Welcome back to my personal space. It feels so good to write here again😊. Today’s blog will be a bit long so please bear with me 🤧.

Today I’ll be talking about a four letter word. It’s like I love to talk about 4 letter words😂. Did you notice?

Anyways, if you read the title of this write-up you already know what it is.

Yesssss it’s Love!. Love love love love🎶

This word is so short but yet holds the power to put smiles on people’s faces, it has the power to break a heart(a whole heart!), it has the power to change someone’s world, it has so much power to bring beautiful colours into someone’s life, it has the power to bring people together, it has the power to make people cry. The list is quite endless so I’ll stop here.

Love is a desicion

Yeah you read that right, but I don’t think you understand it yet so I’ll explain it to you with three different scenarios. So here it goes;

The dating life

I love you

I’ll never leave you

I’d always be here for you

I love you with my whole heart

My love for you can never die

Yadayadayadayada

Unless you’ve decided in your heart to love someone unconditionally all these statements are just okotomeowmeow ( sorry for my choice of word here. I learnt it from my friend and I’ve been wanting to use it ever since😂😂)

Anyways, the point here is, love is a decision more than it’s an emotion. Unless you genuinely decide to love someone you’re going to find it hard to express it even if it’s there.

A time when…

There was a time when I used to think, once someone tells me oh “I love you” he or she must really mean it. I felt like before anyone can say that word to me he or she must’ve thought hard and long, he or she must’ve really felt something before they can decide to use the word. I thought it was a strong word. Well, it still is. I mean, it’s supposed to be.

Now…

All that has changed (I think now I know better 😂)

I’m sure you don’t blame me for changing my mindset. I’m sure you can relate to it as well. Infact, at this point, I think everyone can relate to it.

There are lots of people out there, misusing the word “love” or rather the statement “I love you”. They feel they can use it so why not!

But these questions still remain

Do you really mean it?

Are you prepared for what is to come after you say it?

Or do you feel it’s just a means to manipulate your way into someone’s life?

I think before you say those words to anyone, ask yourself these questions first so as to avoid unnecessary heartbreaks.

How can two people be “in love” and within the twinkle of an eye everything turns sour?. It feels very strange. I’ve tried so hard to wrap my head around it but there’s simply no explanation for it. How can someone just fall out of love for you within seconds?. How can you claim to love someone today and the next day you don’t?. It’s really crazy. But I think the question should be. Do people even understand what love is?. Do they know the true meaning of love?. Do they know what love entails?. People tend to misuse the phrase “I love you”. It’s become so common and an avenue to mislead people into thinking they’ve found the perfect one.
Please if you don’t love her don’t tell her you do. If you don’t love him don’t tell him you do and unless you truly understand what love is DON’T FALL IN LOVE.

So I wrote this some months back. It’s actually part of my unfinished write-ups (I procrastinate a lot, it’s actually a problem😭). I decided to bring it here so I can explain to you the depths to which this simple statement “I love you” can go. I wrote it because I had seen one too many cases of heartbreaks. Heartbreaks that could have been avoided if only a decision to love unconditionally was made from the start.

Brotherly love

Here’s a short story

A few weeks ago my mum and I went to the market to get food stuffs. We got there, bought a few items and decided to buy chicken (not the frozen ones). On getting there we discovered that our customer wasn’t around. Her shop was open but she wasn’t there so we decided to buy from the lady next to her because we were in a hurry. She showed us a few, but my mum was quite skeptical about hers. She said it wasn’t big enough, blah blah blah blah(you know Nigerian mum’s now😏). We were about to leave when the lady asked us to wait. She went straight to her neighbors shop, selected the biggest chicken, killed it, cleaned it up and sold it to us. We were in shock. We were shocked at how selfless she was. She sold for her neighbor!. Not everyone would do that. And mind you, she didn’t just sell bottled water or a pack of biscuits. She sold a whole life chicken. She went through the stress of killing, cleaning and dressing it up for us. At that point I knew there were still good people in the world.

That brings me back to this statement “love is a decision”. That lady could have easily decided not to do it. I mean who likes stress. She could have decided to let us go, but no, she decided to help her neighbor. She decided to be selfless and spread love. Now that’s a decision you have to consciously make. Spreading love won’t cost you anything. Yes it might cost you a few pennies, time, efforts, words, but can that really be compared to the smiles you put on people’s faces? Can it be compared to God’s blessings?

Decide today to be that little light in this very dark world. We need all the light we can get.

The third one…

You

Now let’s take this to you

Have you decided to love yourself?

Have you decided to forgive yourself for all the countless mistakes you’ve made?

Have you decided to tolerate yourself?

Have you decided to stop being too hard on yourself?

Have you decided to love your body as much as God does?

Have you decided to stop comparing yourself to others?

Have you decided to genuinely accept yourself?

Have you decided to love You?

I think it’s high time you did that. That’s the least you can do for you. You deserve all the pampering in the world. Nothing is too good for you. You’re meant to enjoy all the good things of life. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

I’m sure now you understand why I say love is a decision. You get to decide who you love, give your time or your attention. You get to decide if you want to love yourself or not. You also get to decide if you want to spread love and be selfless. It’s all up to you!

I hope you enjoyed reading as much as I enjoyed writing. Let me know in the comment section if you agree or disagree with the statement love is a Decision. I’d love to hear from you.

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I’ve decided to post here every Friday. So anticipate!!!. I can’t promise a particular time yet but we would get there soon😁. I pray God helps me through this🙏(from my lips to God’s ears😁).

Till next time

Lots of love

Vera❤️